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First Birthday Rant

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soad · 14/10/2023 20:37

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Hi all, I just needed a place to rant. It’s mine & my sons birthday (his first) on Monday, and I’m extremely poorly at the moment. I’m so upset and feel like a massive failure, birthday weekend has been cancelled - we we going out Monday aswell but I think I’ll still be poorly. I’m so upset I haven’t got the energy to celebrate or have fun. Im so poorly I don’t even wanna be around him as I haven’t got the patience or energy - his dad is doing everything atm and I know he’s abit miffed I’m poorly but won’t show it.

also, selfishly - this is my second birthday in a row I’ve not gotten to do anything - no presents, nice meals or seeing family
I’m so in my feels right now.
son is also a tad poorly. You only get so many firsts, and you only get so many “young” birthdays. It’s not fair / been excited for the for ages :(

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SleepingisanArt · 14/10/2023 20:49

He has no idea its his birthday so dont worry about your wee one. Just do your celebrating for both birthdays when you are feeling better and can enjoy it properly.

A lot of our family have winter birthdays when things are either closed (theme parks) or only offering Christmas menus, so we did 'half' birthdays in the summer! Had an extra half birthday cake and token present but went all out on a fun day out. It was great fun and something to look forward to.

StSwithinsDay · 14/10/2023 20:51

I’m so in my feels right now.

I think I am older than you. What does this mean?

AnneLovesGilbert · 14/10/2023 20:54

Hope you feel better soon.

We had to cancel DD’s first birthday as we went into lockdown, it was a pile of utter shit and we were so worried and scared. I’m a keen baker and I was so stressed I didn’t even think to make her a cake. She didn’t have a second either as we were back in bloody lockdown again. I also missed two birthdays.

Her third one was brilliant, she had some little friends by then and we had a huge party.

Plan something fun for when you’re all better.

Mummy08m · 14/10/2023 21:01

I'm sorry op. I hope you feel better soon!

In case this story makes you feel better...

For my dd's first birthday we had to rush her to A+E at 3 in the morning because she was struggling to breathe. We were visiting the in laws and we had my mum with us, (we rented a cottage next door to the in laws) so it wasn't even our local hospital, it was on the other side of the country. And it was still lockdown so dh had to wait in the car outside the hospital while I was with a gasping baby in a+e. Luckily they gave her some kind of miracle dose of steroids or similar as soon as we arrived but then I had to wait with her for about 3 hours before a doctor could examine her properly. I told dh to drive back to the cottage (30min each way) to fetch more things. We finally all got back to the cottage about breakfast time. Whereupon my mum woke up, entirely oblivious, hadn't heard our frenzied calls to 111, hadn't heard the car leaving and arriving multiple times in the night...!

Tl:Dr sorry you're having a rubbish and stressful birthday. But you'll have a funny story to laugh about one day. I know it doesn't feel like it now.

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soad · 15/10/2023 08:03

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soad · 15/10/2023 08:04

soad · Today 08:03

Just like being in your feelings, whether it be sad or happy. Almost ‘stewing’ in your sadness, in my case.

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Marmite27 · 15/10/2023 08:08

I’d say ‘wallowing’.

BrutusMcDogface · 15/10/2023 08:12

You can’t help being unwell. It’s nothing you’ve done wrong. Just celebrate when you feel better.

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