Hi guys. We have a 3 year old son. We had a really difficult birth and found it hard emotionally for the first year of his life. Times moved on and we love him unreal amounts and he’s the light of our lives. We always thought before we had him that we would have 2. Then we decided we wouldn’t have anymore because we had such a hard time and we have very limited family support. However it is something we now both question every day. We just can’t decide what to do. Im not “broody”… but our son adores babies and asks for a baby to be in my tummy (his auntie has had 2 babies since my son entered this world). Is it reasonable to have another child, solely just to give them a sibling? I’d do anything for him to be the happiest he can be, but then I worry about them not getting on? What if we have another and they don’t even like each other? Particularly worried if it was to be a girl as he only plays with boys generally. I’d hate to turn his world upside down, especially because we would be having another for his benefit? Sometimes I think I’d like to do it all again… but I think I’d want to do it all again with him! I’m so confused. I know some people don’t have this debate and it’s a given that they will have more than one child, but for us it’s a huge decision that’s driving us mad. I think you should have another because you WANT another, not just to give them a sibling…?!
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Cyeo123 · 26/09/2023 12:29
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