Would you let your 5 month old stay overnight?

[yvonneb13]

Basically that my 5 month has never been away from me and me and my husband have a wedding coming up and my MIL and FIL want to watch him for the day and over night to give us a break? Part of me wants to other part of me doesn't I mean I know he'd Be fine but im scared that'll he'll miss and me and miss his routine. Am I worrying to much should I just go enjoy myself?

Never did it with MIL as she has a bad back and can’t lift babies out of the cot but we did this from 3 months old with my parents. A day and a night is a long time when you’ve never done it before though! Why not start with them having babysit for a couple of hours while you go out for dinner or something? If that goes ok then you’ll feel more confident about the wedding. Unless of course you just really don’t want to, that’s fine also!

I would OP , go and enjoy yourselves. Your hardly leaving him with strangers. itll be over before you know it .

I absolutely wouldn't but it's a personal choice and you wouldn't be wrong for doing it.

I didn't feel comfortable leaving my kids overnight until they were 2 though!

I’d be inclined to do it given you don’t mention any concerns about quality of care. It’s good for you and your relationship to have sone couple time and time with friends having fun.
Maybe have a trial for a couple of hours first to put your mind at rest and leave written instructions about his routine

Aw he'd be in safe hands he is grand child number 5 for them but he's my first and im just worried lol they are great with all the kids im just scared he'll cry and miss me 😂 or im worrying to much

My toddler spent their first night at grandparents because my second labour stalled due to worrying about childcare. There's absolutely no way I would have considered an overnight stay for a small baby. It doesn't benefit baby at all to be away from their primary caregiver. I was a ebf mum so wouldn't want to distress my baby by disrupting feeds either. The only reason to do it is because you need a break away together but it's only been five months, don't see how you both need to get away overnight yet really. Most people I know didn't go out for longer than an evening until baby was 18 months+.

There's obviously no rules though, it's up to you.

Did you find they missed you or were they okay??

This always seems to be a divided topic.
In my family I've seen both the reluctant parent who don't leave and the ones who do whether that be need or desire.
Both are absolutely fine!

My brother didn't leave his little one until he was 1.5 and there was a little more reluctance from the toddler. I left my DD with my mum at around the same age as I wasn't well and although I fretted and spent most the night checking in - she was absolutely grand. She's nearly 2 now and absolutely ADORES her sleepovers with nanny. Which made my life a million times easier when I ended up admitted to the hospital for a few days and we had no option but an extended nanny sleepover.

I got to rest and recover and not worry a bit because I knew she was absolutely grand and having the time of her life.

It's all about what you'll feel comfortable with and what you want to do. Don't let anything else sway you.

Little one will more than likely be absolutely fine and not in tears missing you. Especially if routines can be mostly mimicked (though they sort of went out the window with my mum but everyone got some sleep eventually and she was no worse off for it!) I know my mum said she found it a world easier to settle the younger child than she did the 1.5 year old.

Could you perhaps do a little trial run of an evening?