One, and proud Mumma !

[unicornglitter123]

Hello,
I have one DD, aged 4. I don't think my hubby and I will be having a second. So we are parents of one. Very much enjoying and loving being a mum/parent...

But as DD has got older and we are going to birthday parties and mixing more with school friends...all have siblings.
I'm trying not to overthink this but getting a bit fed if comments like "oh don't be too rough with (my daughter) she doesn't have older brothers or a brother..."

"Oh she isn't used to brothers so maybe let (my daughter) go first etc etc"

My DD hasn't said anything but I've jumped in and said "she's fine ! There are lots of boys in her class who she likes to play with: loud etc"

Honestly! Sick of being made to feel like we aren't a normal family because I have one child!!

Any advice from parents futher down the track with an only?
I'm totally doing her a disservice and wrecking her life by not having another!!

It sounds like people are being thoughtful to your daughter but you are extra sensitive because you haven't 100% made peace with your decision.
It's perfectly wonderful to have one child, she will be absolutely fine without a sibling. You need to get yourself into a place where you fully believe this and then silly comments won't feel so big a deal.

Yes I think that might be part of the problem @KatieYoYo

It's like I'm conscious before going into a party or school play date ...that she will be the only one without a sibling.
It doesn't seem to impact on her ...

But it keeps getting brought up and it's like why does it have to be

In the friendliest way, I think you need to make peace with it. Life is far too short.
People say things off the cuff often just to fill a space or its an ill thought out thing based on their own perspectives. Try not to read too much in to what others say at parties etc.
What others think if you and your decisions should be none of your business. I'm sure you don't overthink others' decisions regarding number of kids. Your situation is your life, your lovely life, enjoy your child. X
And yes I have 1 child. We did have a chance to have another but decided being an only was best for our child and family.