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I’m bored of baby/ child chat after infertility

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BlueMumma2018 · 13/06/2023 21:00

We have one child who we adore deeply. We have been through ivf a couple of times and lost a baby from this. It was the worst time of my life. After being triggered massively by alot of pregnancy announcements, seeing baby’s around etc I’ve been through therapy to come to terms with the loss and possibly being one and done.

I am so happy that I am not spiralling as much as I did when I was in the thick of grief. But in my partial acceptance of our future I have completely lost interest in talking/ hearing about pregnancy, babys, announcements, baby showers etc. Before I had DC I was so gushy over it and cared. I feel like I’ve moved on from the excitement of it because it’s ended for me now. Has anyone experienced this?

I see another one of my friends is pregnant and I feel happy for them but it ends there. I find it boring. Is that bad? I feel like literally every one of my friends are in this earth mother baby stage of their life and it bores me silly. I feel like I avoid people because of it. I know I’m not the only mum that finds it all so dull. But I feel lost in mum land and no one wants to do anything else. Oops I wrote an essay.. can you tell my therapist is on holiday haha

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Dacadactyl · 13/06/2023 21:08

I've never been through infertility and have my own kids, but I've never been one for baby showers, pregnancy announcements, excitement around pregnancies etc.

I think it's OK (and actually really normal) not to be overly invested in that sort of thing. I've always been like you are now tbh. I don't think you should feel bad about it.

Fatat40 · 13/06/2023 22:14

It will end for them too. They'll have their families and they'll start to grow up. Unfortunately it is really hard when you're out of step with your friends. It might take a long time for you to stop hearing baby announcements , depends how old you are! In the meantime can you make some non-mum friends? Take up a sport or other hobby? Enjoy doing things with your older child that the pram pushers can't?

tourdefrance · 13/06/2023 22:20

I have two kids and find baby chat pretty boring too. I didn’t find it very interesting before kids either!
But I also find wedding chat boring and just try to say the bare minimum and hope the conversation moves on.

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