So overwhelmed with life

[PocketRocket12]

I am sure this is a normal feeling but I am so overwhelmed with life. I feel like I’m barely holding the threads together and I’m permanently exhausted.

I have a very spirited and demanding toddler, work 4 days a week in a challenging Director role and just feel like I am failing at it all. My DH is in an equally demanding role doing shift work / overnights / on call. We split housework but I tend to do more.

My day starts at 5am, my toddler doesn’t sleep (wakes twice a night atleast), I’m making mistakes at a job I used to love in a career I’ve worked so hard for, I don’t have time for friends or family, when I have my three days off my DS suffers from such separation anxiety he screams if I’m out of eyeline for a second and my heart is always racing.. is it always this way or does it get easier?

I had PND for 7 months and don’t want to go back that way. It just all feels like a lot and I feel like I’m doing all elements of my life very badly.

I'm you but with a five year old and I promise it gets easier. Every six months is a bit easier as their ability to communicate improves. If you can crack the sleep, you'll have it nailed!

Oh god I hope you’re right @Roseelane - don’t want to give up my job, can’t see it all ever getting easier but surely it must?!

Ah yes, the sleep. We’ve tried everything! At the moment just hoping he grows out of it

I honestly have no idea how anyone manages to work, tidy and clean with a toddler. I'm a SAHM and tidying anything is either pointless or impossible when he's awake and he's very independent so I can't even imagine how much harder it would be if he was clingy 🤷‍♀️

It sounds as though sleep is one of your biggest issues here. What have you tried so far?

It's the sleep! I could have written this post myself a few months ago, but our 2.5 year old is now FINALLY sleeping through the night and everything feels 75% easier. There's just no way to be a functioning, happy person if you're waking up multiple times every night, trying to be a good parent, trying to do well at work, and have anything left over for yourself. You're not doing anything wrong.

I'm sure you've read all of the sleep advice, so you might just have to wait it out until he starts sleeping through the night. Even the worst sleepers generally seem to sleep through the night regularly between 2 and 3 years old.

Complete agree with @sarahb083!!

Hi I’m very confused about a situation I’m going through. My ex who’s the dad of my daughter never introduced me to he’s family and hid me and now that we are not togther he wants to take hes daughter to another country to meet he’s family I don’t think I should allow it for disrespecting me for not introduction me plus he has a wife there who he probably always had hence why he never introduced me I feel so upset he has the guts to ask me to take my child ?

@Aneesa21 you've posted this on someone else's thread. I'd recommend creating a new thread by clicking 'start new thread' at the top of the page.