Long post but I'm in need of advice please. I'm at my wits end.
To try put it as short as possible, I'm a mum of a 1.5yr old boy. I moved in with my mother several months ago because me and my ex split up (and have issues going on which I needed to involve a solicitor because he's controlling and him and his mother were mentally and emotionally abusive towards me), so since moving in with my mother, she had to leave her rental and was unable to afford anything in the area so we moved with her as we didn't have anywhere else, to a place which is 5hrs away from my ex, so my son doesn't get to see him very often, he moved with his parents to Wales (I'm in England) and we're planning on staying here a while. I'm also currently on UC, looking for a job but daycare issues.
Thing is my mother had always been somewhat abusive.... mentally and emotionally. Sometimes she got physical. She's a narcissist. It's something I've realised this year. She's not diagnosed but we know she is. She tells my whole family who live in a different country as we're not from here originally, that I don't look after my son, don't clean in the house etc.... which I do! I look after my son, I clean etc. she has NO respect of my boundaries and never has. My family seem to be on her side... I only have her in the UK it's difficult as I'm super lonely. She will randomly come into mine and my sons room when he's crying and record without a warnin, so she can send the video to my family and they don't know the context so they have a go at me. But that's okay, nothing I can do about it.
In the place we moved from I lived for yeaaaars and I applied for a council house there, which I don't like the idea of being that kind of person but that's my current situation, and mothers abuse is getting worse and worse, it's really affecting me and how I look after my child. She doesn't work herself I guess she can't be bothered. But for me, I'd go back to the area I lived in previously (3hrs away from my ex still) but I don't have any friends since I've had a baby I lost loads, I have a few but they live far so I woudknt have any help. If I spoke to the council again I don't know if they'd let me move there... I'd be alone with my son and dog and that's really difficult because taking them out together can be a nightmare. And my dog staying with my mother.... she wouldn't look after him properly... as in he'd likely get 1 walk a day at like 1/2pm. I don't know what to do. I'm so lonely and it's hard to reason with my ex. My mother too but she's a narcissist so coming to an understanding is impossible like it always had been.
Can anyone relate or suggest anything I'd really appreciate? Besides a few friends who don't have kids and don't understand, and my best friend who does have a child but also lives far.... I don't have anyone.