DD starting school making me think I want another baby

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DD started reception last week. I was so happy she was so excited, has been making new friends and so on.

It’s just been me and her at home, I work weekends so it’s just been the 2 of us and she’s my little buddy.

I don’t want anymore children and never did. I hated pregnancy, I looked forward to giving birth just I would no longer be pregnant. I hated sleepless nights and colic. I hated and I’m rubbish at being organised enough to not forget everything that a small baby needs just for a trip to the shops. I hated toddler tantrums. Competitive parenting and so many other things about being the parent of a baby/toddler. I love my daughter so much but even now she’s 4 there’s loads of things I just don’t like about being a parent.

All that being said she’s started her second week of school and I’m lost! The thoughts crept in this week to have another. I know it’s daft. I don’t want another, my DP can’t have children. When I think about it I have good sounds reasons why but the thought just won’t stop lingering. Anyone else feeling this way?

I would get a job Mon to Fri now as it sounds like you are bored. If your DP can't have children then what was your plan to have another? Sperm donor? Or break up with DP

It's empty nest syndrome amd lots of parents go through it and the way to do this is fill your time

No ... I was thrilled when my DC started school .. plenty of time for myself to do what I wanted ... whether that was working, volunteering or just enjoying the peace and quiet. Never, ever regretted having an only DC.

I have a job, it’s shift work though and the weekends have always fitted around my childcare more easily/saved me a fortune but because I work 12 hour shifts finding before and after school care would be a nightmare as DP does the same job we can’t really switch it round.

I’m certain it’s empty nest syndrome. I’m just so used to being at home with her I’m not sure what to do with myself. I don’t want another and never have. Babies are hard and I don’t want to get back into that again.

It sounds like you miss your daughter when she's at school, which is lovely. From what you've said, I don't think having another child is the solution. It sounds like you just want your daughter to be small again and you miss the time with her. This is a transition period and I think it will get easier with time.

Having another baby would actually mean you'll be able to spend less time with her and focus on her less - it might help to think of it that way.

When my second child started school, I went to university. Having children and being a SAHM is a phase. Move on with your life.