Do you know many other one child families and how did you find them?

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I have a 2 year old daughter and I’d love for her to get to know some other only children her age, but I don’t really know where to find them. At this stage many families are either trying for or already have second children, or many haven’t decided yet if they’re one and done.

If your only child has other only child friends how did you get to know them or was it just luck? I wish there was some kind of network for families with one child to find each other but I haven’t found anything based in the UK so far.

No advice sorry. Just wondering why you are looking though? I have one child and all the mums I made friends with when my DS was a baby have since had one or two more - I don’t see how it makes a difference to DS or me.

I was very lucky that four of the friends I made through baby and toddler groups haven't had further children (for various reasons). I only realised how very lucky I was to find them when DS started school, where almost all the other children have siblings.

You are right to be on the look out for other such families if you don't plan further children. It is a really positive thing for your DC to know other only children, besides the much easier logistics of arranging to do stuff together, and motivation to do so.

Surely that would be easy at the age! Your child is 2 many won’t have had another one yet I know many that only have one child. Agree with pp what is the reason why you want to meet someone with only one?

I've only got one child. When ds started school that's were I made friends with some of the mums, 4 off us only have one child.

I agree with the PP — why do you want to find families with one child? All of my (only child) DS’s friends have siblings, but in several cases there’s such a big age gap, or the sibling boards, that they’re essentially an only child for day to day purposes.

Surely you are just looking for families with children? Why does it have to be families with only children?

There’s nothing wrong with having friends with siblings, it would just be especially nice to find some other only children for her to be friends with too. I don’t want her to feel like she’s odd or not normal for not having siblings and I figured knowing some other one child families might help. 🙂

Wow that is lucky! Thank you, yes these are some of the reasons it would be nice to know similar families. Especially in the holidays when siblings tend to play together many parents are so busy and less interested in doing play dates.

I don’t think a two year old would care or notice would they? Children might at some point wish for an extra sibling, that’s fairly common, but I really don’t think feeling odd or not normal because you don’t have a sibling is a thing. Because obviously it’s not odd or not normal. I do think you’re making something out of nothing.

Doesn't she go to a CM or nursery where you'd meet others? In my family we're all one and done (4 of us) so not difficult to find. All our DC went to nursery or CM's from very young though so mixed with other kids from the get go.
Don't think any of them felt different tbh and love being "only"

I wouldn't worry at this age, when your DC starts school, you'll meet other parents in similar situations, I've met a couple who are very happy for our "onlies" to have play dates, it's lovely.

I'm also finding I'm appreciating the advantages of an only child too now he's a bit older. (It's not by choice for me and I struggle sometimes)

On holiday!

Most local friends have multiple children (we'd have loved to expand our family but it just didn't happen for us).

We met a family with an only child the same age as ours on holiday 6 years ago and have become very good friends. We now holiday with them every year and see them in between too!

Lots of holiday hotels suit a family of 3!