Having a wobble friend is pregnant

[Felix0204]

One child family DD is nearly 9 had DD young so I still have time quite a few years. My friend has told me she's pregnant with number 2 our DC are the same age. My career is starting to take off but I still feel guilty about leaving DD an only she used to frequently ask for siblings and say she's lonely. She's now stopped ,It's too late to provide her with a playmate the age gap is too large. I'm having a wobble today with my decision, I don't think DH even wants another. We enjoy our life together as a 3 , going to the cinema , frequent trips abroad. That would all change but then I feel guilty I don't want my DD to feel alone. The thought of never having a newborn again or that smell.
I can't decide if having a 2nd with such a large age gap would be detrimental.

I don't think having a 2nd with a large age gap is detrimental however I would probably question myself as to why you're wanting to have another if you really don't want to? Is it clear your guilty conscience?

I have only one as well and every time I see friends/colleagues on to their 2nd, 3rd I start to feel a little guilty but I get over it very soon lol. I wan't a 2nd but only when I feel ready and its 100% what I want and not just because I feel guilty.

I have dd9 and also an only. She also asked for a sibling but stopped years ago. We have a great life as a threesome. Currently on holiday just us (whereas we often go with extended family) and she has got a little lonely at times, but is fantastic at entertaining herself generally. But ultimately If I had another (which I can't) I don't think they'd have a typical playmate sibling relationship. Baby might interest her and occupy her time (for a while) but they'd not play together as such. Does your dc have friends/ family around?