realtionship

[Cheryl22x]

Hi all I’m wanting abit of an advice this is a long one I’m not going to bore yous with every single detail but here goes.. I’ve got the sense my ex partners mum has never liked me from day 1 of meeting my ex partner I used to try and say hello and make a convo but she would look me up and down and give me dirty looks.. then months later I fell pregnant with my daughter who’s now 6 months old. She was a nightmare very jealous and tried to compete against my mum (trying to be the better grandparent). Near the end of my pregnancy she went out & bought a car seat and travel cot she didn’t tell me this my ex partner had to tell me, I told her politely when my daughter was born that she. Would not be going in the car so it wasn’t needed after this she didn’t bother with my daughter for 3 weeks no texts, calls nothing all because she couldn’t get her own way. She’s lied to me multiple of times for her son my daughters dad as he has a problem with drink, she would lend him money for drink and also drop it off for him. This is why me and my partner have split because he had problems with his drink. I was trying to support my ex partner with the drink problem, one day I’d text her asking her if she’d dropped any drink off for him she said no I found out she was lieing to me. So anyways.. I’ve said to her that she can’t see my daughter on her own she was demanding to try and pick her up and have her for a couple of hours by herself. I’m just not comfortable with this at all as she’s never wanted to try and get on with me or my family, she’s he been awkard about things, she lies to me, she would never communicate with me to tell me what she’s bought my daughter or nothing. I’ve never said she can’t see my daughter her son would be able to take her over or she can come and visit her at my house or her sons. But she’s complaining about this saying she’s getting ‘ baby sat’. She’s 6 months old what wouldn’t she be able to do with her when her sons there what she could by her self? Now because she can’t have her own way I don’t hear anything from her she doesn’t bother with my daughter. Am I being unreasonable?

no you're not - as you're not even together with your daughters dad I would suggest you have nothing to do with her as she's not your MIL. If she doesn't want to make an effort with you then you're not going to bend over backwards so she can see her grandchild

You wouldn't leave your child with someone you don't like. So it's the same even if they're family

Now you and your ex have split it's up to him to allow his mum to see her grandchild - I don't suppose he is communicating with your mum to make sure they're seeing each other?

She sounds like she's got no boundaries. Don't bother

Hello thanks so much for replying. I live with my mum as I had to leave my home because he wouldn’t stop the drinking when I was pregnant she defended her son all the way.. never wanted to communicate with me and now she wants to have my daughter by her self. My ex partner hasn’t done a thing for his daughter but I am still in contact with him I don’t trust him to have her by his self either because of his own actions

Your baby your choice who sees her

Do not leave your daughter with someone you don't trust. I don't think grandparents have rights over their grandchildren do they?

Even if they do you have a case against him for his drinking problem and for her supplying it. These are two toxic and irresponsible people.

You do not have ties to this woman. Your ex does. But if he isn't bothering with the baby you don't need anything to do with him either

Good luck, I am sorry this is happeninf to you