Concerns over having a second child

[MrsSMD]

Hi, so basically I'm undecided if it's the right thing to do and have another baby.
I'm happily married and settled, we have a nearly 4 year old daughter who is amazing. It took us 2 & 1/2 years to conceive so she's our little miracle. I always said I only wanted one and I only wanted a girl which Ive got so why now do I have this urge/feeling to have another baby??
We recently visited a friend who is having another baby and she has a son who is 5 in December so the age gap for them isn't a problem however they have a very tight knit family support circle and the little boy spends 90% of his time at his grandparents so I feel they have a different situation to us but seeing her pregnant really stirred something up inside me and I don't know if I'm just feeling broody or if I feel like a second baby would be a good thing. I've always said having 2 would be hard and I wouldn't want one to feel less loved or not have as much attention so having just one was always the plan. My husband is happy to have more and happy to stay as just us 3 but I can't stop thinking about having another.
I've been going over the pros and cons in my head for 5 days now!

How do you know if another baby is the right thing and does a 4 year age gap make a massive difference.
It would be like starting from fresh as we've sold all the baby things so would have to buy new again, as like I said one was always the plan so never thought to keep things for another.

Does having these "doubts" already answer my own question?

Thank you for reading and I look forward to any help, advice, experience or wisdom

We've had these doubts on and off for a couple of years, my DD is 6 now and we bit the bullet a couple of weeks ago and decided to have my coil removed. We're not actively trying, but will just see what happens, I turned 40 this year, so feel the odds may be against me, but DH is broody and we worry about DD when she's an adult not having much family as both our siblings don't have children. The age gap right now will be quite big if we are successful, but for us it's more about when she's older

We had dd2 when dd1 was 4.5.

I had many concerns, top of the list what would we do if dc2 was born with additional needs that required increased care and turned dd1’s world upside down. We decided to role the dice after a lot of indecision because we felt like our family wasn’t complete yet, like we were still waiting for someone to turn up. I was 41 when dd2 was born.
Dd2 is thankfully fine, dd1 loves her, and life is good, but i am endlessly aware it could have gone the other way and was a life changing decision. The age gap is fine, fwiw.

Thank you all for your responses, me and my husband have had a Good chat and discussed our options and we have decided to try for baby no 2! 😬 eek, we're both excited but we've said it's definitely a time sensitive issue and if we don't fall pregnant in the next year then we will just leave it as a team of 3 which we are still very happy about. I don't want to leave a too big an age gap so we feel it's now or never and we're both completely happy with that decision. I'm hoping as my DD is going to be starting full time school next sept then it would be slightly easier throughout the day but I'm sure we'll come to that hurdle when/if it comes.
So now it's onto Facebook looking at second hand items for sale, one of the many things I enjoyed about being pregnant was buying the tools needed to survive, obviously I won't purchase anything until we get that all important +tive test. See you all on the other side x

I'm just having a read through this thread and wondering why people don't like an age gap between children? I could understand a really big one (10+) perhaps but 5/6 wouldn't have made me think twice... Just curious

@singlemum203

I'm just having a read through this thread and wondering why people don't like an age gap between children? I could understand a really big one (10+) perhaps but 5/6 wouldn't have made me think twice... Just curious

I think for me it's about having a big enough age gap so that I'm not looking after 2 "babies" at the same time and not leaving it too long so that they can actually play together at an age where they will want to. I wouldn't want a teenager and a toddler as they won't play together and it would be unfair to expect an older child to "babysit" (as such) a younger sibling but having an older toddler will be better for me as I feel she'll want to help and be happy to but is independent enough not to need me if she wants something whilst I'm looking after the younger one. There's loads of reasons I suppose it's each to their own