Will i regret my choice?

[dorris88]

DH and I have a DD 3, and he has a DD 8. We have the most perfect set up - everyone is so happy.

We have been trying for baby number 2 and I have been 50/50 about wanting to try. My mental health suffered when she was a baby, i didn't enjoy having a baby.

We are now at a point where everything is perfect. Kids are at fun great ages, they get on sooooo well considering the age gap and adore each other. We have DSD 50/50.

I feel we have the best of both worlds, 2 children half the time, and 1 the other.

The only thing that's keeping me wondering, is because obviously DSD isn't actually mine. Not that matters particularly. I also always saw myself having two children of my own.

DH and I had the conversation yesterday and i have felt liberated like we can begin enjoying our family unit rather than putting things off until we "have another baby" - another baby i don't really want.

My mum said "your not having a hysterectomy, your just not having another baby now" which made me relax. I just don't know if i ever will want to go back and do the baby stuff again.

Not sure what I'm looking for here, am i doing the right thing? lol

another baby i don't really want.

That says it all. You don't want another baby, end of story. Plus your daughter already has a half sibling around half the time, so the best of both worlds.

Where did this pressure to have another come from in the first place? Is it your partner?

no pressure, except my own that i always imagined having 2 of my own children.

However, i do fulfilled with my one child and my step child.

I guess i want to find someone in the same situation that was fulfilled with one biological child, but has the family of 4 scenario.

You sound like you have an idea set up. Your decision sounds completely reasonable to me fwiw.

Don’t have a baby that (in your own words) you don’t really want in order to make reality comply with an image in your head. It’s ok only to want one biological child.