Dd at uni

[Monica53]

Hi
Well our Dd is away at Uni again, her third year though resitting last year as was washout for her . I’m finding some of the time ok , however particularly today I could cry all day! Went for drive on my own as husband didn’t want to go out. Call me silly I saw whilst out one of the parents who we used to be friends with in what we thought a lovely group but one of the other kids bullied our daughter and as she was ring leader we were ostracised and they all still socialise and aww have a fab time 😢 I’m distressed and upset and always seem worse when I see any of them , this is gone on for years now and I know it’s bonkers . Our Dd is away 4+ hrs away and I hate the fact she’s moved away , though wish her all the luck and success as she had the most horrific teen years due to bullying. She still suffers anxiety due to it. Anyway I just had to put it down.

Your DD is a young woman now and you need to let her go. She's doing very well for herself by living independently and going to university.

Life has changed since she was a child. You need to enrich your life in ways that don't always involve your DD. She has her life and you have yours. Of course you will always be there for her and support her but she's not going to always be there physically now. After uni, she might even not move back home.

If I was you, I would get out there and look to meet new friends.

Your DD is living the life she should be living. You can enjoy the time you have together when she's home but you need to have a life of your own, particularly when she's away .

What do you like doing? if you have the money to do it, joining hobby / social groups will bring friends into your life. Exercise/sports groups. Rambling . Local drama group, Art classes. Have a go at something you've always fancied doing. If not, there's volunteering - work at the local amateur theatre, conservation groups etc.

You just have to give something a go to fill that void.