One baby was always plan but....

[mamaAJJ]

So... I know this is the baby bubble talking but DH and I had our DD last week after years and years of TTC and IVF. We always said we wouldn't go through another round, and we would always just have her and enjoy holidays together. But since we've had her, I've felt so sad that would be my only labour and every day she's getting that bit bigger and I soon won't have a newborn ever again and I just love her so much. Is this normal? DH thinks I'm mad (so do I tbh!) to even think about going through it all again and that it'll pass x

Yes, it's very normal. It's normal to be bizarrely broody right after birth because of the hormones, and it's very normal to be sad you won't have another baby even if you've had the number you wanted, much less if you would like another but can't.

The hormonal aspect will pass. Be gentle with yourself.

It will pass!

It will pass !

By DH always said only one, and I had hyperemesis, so that sealed it for me. Also my DD is now in preschool so I'm really starting to get my life back and make career plans etc.

However I'm a 40 year old women and at a certain point each month my hormones scream at me to have another (half a dozen) babies before I hit the menopause.

OP I think what you're are feeling is very normal.

It might pass, it might not. I think its really difficult to know for sure how you'll feel about another child til you have one. My best friend always wanted only one (actually she was in between none and one) now her daughter is nearly 3 and she's experienced lots of fun with her, she'd quite like another, but her husband isn't on board even though he was always of the view he'd have as many children as she wanted.

But right now: its likely to be super hormonal. I don't think tis good to focus on 'the last time', can you just think you can defer the decision a year or so? Then things will be a bit more settled and you'll probably find your logical brain goes back to thinking one is a good idea, but if it doesn't, you don't have to be beholden to a plan you had before you were a mother.

Thank you everyone. It's nice to know it's normal! I had a traumatic and long labour too, and even that isn't seeming that bad from my memory - the body and mind is a strange thing isn't it! We have a lot of holidays planned for the next year with DD, so I'm trying to focus on the memories we have to come

Oh dear, do not make any decisions right now. This will pass, and if not, talk about it after Christmas. Enjoy the little one for now. Watch her growing bit by bit.

Congratulations on the little one, best of luck to you guys!

I'd leave it a while, I remember after both my births at about the one week after stage I was very sad and missed my labour so much! (My first labour was long and horrendous but I still missed it). When you give birth you feel superhuman and so you bloody should after what you and your body has just done so I think this is why we want that feeling again.

@mamaAJJ congratulations on your sweet little baby! These broody feelings are so so normal. I was/is exactly the same.
Initially we agreed with DH that we will only have one. So we had one, and I changed my mind pretty much immediately after birth. I want another one. My son is now 11 months, and I am about to go back to ft work in a month's time. The desire for another one changed from primal hormonal broodiness to a more rational want for a second child. My husband, on the other hand, is not on board. I am parking this conversation until we are all settled in work/nursery.