6 year old acting out

[Tiredmummy2019]

We've had several instances of my daughter pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking her classmates and even picking up n dropping our cat who is 17 years old! We've always managed with privilege removal, time out and more recently doing chores as punishment but it came to a head when in the playground she went to pass a boy to get to her friend and cos he wouldnt move she turned around and slapped him, and he's in year 5! So unlikely to be accidental due to height difference... she's written a letter to teachers and we're restricting her contact with friends in playground and probably need to meet with teachers that part we're ok with. The baffling part is why she is acting out! Only main thing that's happened is 6 months ago we were turned out of our rental of 4 years and had to move into somewhere smaller, yes there is impacts from covid but this constant acting out is stressing us both out. Any ideas, similar experiences?

Have you tried asking her why she is acting out?

It isn't normal for that to just happen without a trigger so worth having a good chat with her.

We've tried, she says she is happy at home and at School and can't explain why she is acting out, her response is simply these ppl are in her way and with the cat she says she was playing a game, funny game dropping a cat behind a sofa! 🤔

In which case that is quite disturbing and I would have a conversation with the school and the gp as that isn't normal.

at 6 children should have developed empathy. There are lots of reasons why they don't, from hormone diffficency to asd and then there are some more serious issues. But start with the obvious

Thanks I'll consider that

So I spoke to teacher and explained what course of action we had decided upon - controlled drop off/pick up no direct contact with friends, teacher reporting every day what occurred and no park for a week. So she goes in to School today and think this may just work, then find out she kicked a girl (from same family as the boy no less!) And that she dud it on purpose, teachers around but no one did anything...we are starting to despair of resolving this...want me happy kind child back that I like spending time with...

I really think you need to speak to your GP

What would that involve/achieve? It's about her actions at School not her health so not sure what doc could do really, thought wud start with teachers

@Tiredmummy2019

What would that involve/achieve? It's about her actions at School not her health so not sure what doc could do really, thought wud start with teachers

It's about her mental health, clearly. The school can't assess that appropriately. It's not normal to be violent to others and not know why, you need to call your GP. There's something underlying going on here that needs addressing ASAP.

I just read your thread from 2019 about her not sleeping, and the thing that massively stood out was your anger, and several posters mentioned this. Is it a possibility she's picked up on your anger and is lashing out as a result?

Violent children often learn that behaviour from an angry and possibly violent adult. Who’s she spending time with that can’t control their temper?

I get angry with her occasionally but for good reason, the post from 2019 was due to sleep deprivation and other issues that are no longer an issue. She is not with anyone that is violent with her. All parents shout at times, human nature...

@Tiredmummy2019

I get angry with her occasionally but for good reason, the post from 2019 was due to sleep deprivation and other issues that are no longer an issue. She is not with anyone that is violent with her. All parents shout at times, human nature...

That doesn't mean she doesn't remember it, she was 4 at the time. It's very possible that's what's triggered it.