Freshers 2021

[Annietheangst]

Support thread for those with DC starting uni imminently. Totally dreading my empty nest how about you?

Anyone there

Hi Annie

I think most freshers haven’t started yet which is why you’ve had no replies. My DD moved into uni halls on Saturday. It’s been rocky so far as she doesn’t feel she fits in with her corridor very well. She went catered in the end and the majority of her block seem to be from boarding school and interconnected already. It’s hard hearing her struggle , but hoping things will settle down this week. I was dreading the empty nest, but now I just want hear her sound happy. Has your DC left yet?

I'll join - mine is going this weekend! Dreading it.

Hi! Pleased I'm not alone!

Oh no. So sorry your daughter isn't happy that's really hard. How far away from home is she? I hope it's just a moving in blip & she'll settle down. We've literally just left DS. All unpacked & happy for us to go. I've been crying secretly for days & howled in car for an hour. Just feels like he really doesn't need us any more. Such a weird feeling as really proud of him but he's our only one, 4 hours from home, was always a clingy child & now bang he's gone!!

Just goes against the grain doesn't it to unleash them in to the world when you've spent all their lives protecting them from everything?

@chocolatesaltyballs22

I'll join - mine is going this weekend! Dreading it.

That's how I've been for last few weeks. Oh good luck. How far away? Mine's 200 miles & we live in the sticks so it feels TOO FAR!!

She's gonna be 100 miles away so a couple of hours drive. I have mixed feelings at the minute, mainly because she rolled in at 3am after a night out last night when I had to be up for work today. Was thinking at least I won't have to put up with that any more, at least in term time! But the house is going to be very quiet.

Hope your son settles in well OP.

Yea there is that! DS has been home really 24/7 since first lockdown & I work from home so ever spent all our time together. DH works long hours. It's gonna feel very quiet & strange.

Hi sorry just realised that this is in the one child forum. Hope you don’t mind that I replied as my DD is my youngest of three which means we are empty nesters now.

I know what you mean about the late nights, I was feeling exhausted with it this summer especially as she seems to pick up a virus every other week and pass it on to us. I will miss her dreadfully though.

Annie, although he doesn’t seem like he needs you any more, he really does. I have felt that too when my elder two left, but also been called upon for emotional support regularly. You are his mum and therefore occupy a truly unique place in his life, he will always need you. Hope you hear from him, but generally I’ve found the happier they are, the less you hear! My DD has gone dark now and I’m hoping it’s a sign things are improving. 🙏🏻

Sorry meant to reply to your question: she is three hours away by car but quicker on the train so not too bad.

Of course not! I'm new to mumsnet & probably did it wrong. All empty nesters welcome

That's good that it's quicker on train. It's a pig of a journey by train to where DS is (3 changes & £200)