Never been more certain one and done

[mommabear2386]

So occasionally I find myself thinking I'd like my partner and I to try for a second child together but then days like yesterday happen!

We were at home and my friend called asking to come for lunch and a chat, I said yes of course! Then she calls back saying she's on her way but has been let down for childcare so is bringing her 3 kids with her.

My son (3.5)

She has twin girls (also 3.5)
Boy aged 9

THEN my partners brother called to say he would come help with some garden work we're having done (much appreciated BUT it's his weekend so he's bringing his 3 children....)

Boy aged 12
Girl aged 8
Girl aged 6

Chaos! Tears, tantrums, broken toys so many questions and eaten out of house and home lol
3 hours later everyone leaves, I tidy up and my son comes over asking for a film on we curl up on the sofa and have a nap, both knackered!!

Of course I love all the kids but my goodness I could never cope with 2+ and I love the chilled relationship my son and I have!

@mommabear2386 that sounds full on!

I'm a Mum of one, gorgeous 3 year old girl.
I also have thought about trying for another but just adore the relationship and time I have with my DD. However she doesn't live close to her cousins. Of course we go to playgroups and have play dates...but that is the one thing that I think could be missing...but I don't want to sound selfish...I like a semi tidy house and give all my attention to DD. I work a few hours a week and hubby and I are financially secure...

Crikey, that sounds full on but then there were 7 children in the house.
I have 3 children and it’s not chaos like that!

My two… giggling in the garden together
Music to my ears.
Wouldn’t change it for the world.
Plus… I get to sit with my coffee on mumsnet!

And back from brunch with my beloved sister this morning
The thought of not having her and my bro in my life, especially when we have suffered close family grief… shudder

I had my DD and at two weeks old sent my then DH for the snip. He had a son from a previous relationship but he was mid teens by that point. I knew with absolute certainty I only ever wanted one.
She's now a strong willed, sassy, awesome 8 year old and I'm a single parent. I love our time together.
On the very very very rare occasions I get on online dating I'm very upfront about no more children.

People can be funny about people only having one, as much as they judge larger families. I think it's a very personal choice and each family does what is right for them. Enjoy your only. :)

I hear you! Spending days with friends with squabbling siblings then coming home with just dd is delicious!

Not quite read the room there @Marmitemarinaded

Marmite - not the most sensitive post!

Adore my ds. It was a kind of restricted choice having just one but it's lovely as well. Though there was a long patch where I could see other children playing with their siblings and their parents getting more time to themselves.

I am at such odds with my sister and a bit with my brother over elderly parent issues, it's been a problem for 5 years now and it looks like we're about to have another row about it. Absolute misery and apparently never ending. I can also predict exactly the row we will have after my mum dies. Crap.