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Only child after two miscarriages

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MeganN91 · 13/07/2021 20:43

Hi. In 2019 we decided to try for our second child. Our son is now 5. At the time he was 3. So it took us a year to conceive. And in jan 2021 I suffered a miscarriage. Also recently this month I've gone through another miscarriage. Due to what they found on the scans they think I might of had a partial molar pregnancy. Im currently waiting for my biopsy results to come back. So if it is a molar , I may have to wait 6 months to try again. By that stage our son will be almost 6. I've always wanted 2 children , my son is desperate for a sibling. Now I'm in the predicament of do I risk and try for a third time and possibly miscarry again , or do I not and leave my son as an only child. I know it's fine to have an only child. But it just wasn't our plan. My head in scrambled. Really I think I just need to vent and maybe get some opinions

Thank you

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Babdoc · 14/07/2021 09:00

I’m sorry you have been through this twice, OP. Miscarriage is very distressing, let alone having the possibility of molar pregnancy being raised.
I think, hard as it is, you need to just park the decision until you get your results. And if you do need to wait 6 months, it gives more time for your emotions to settle.
It sounds from your post that you very much want a second child. If that’s the case, you need to weigh that against the risk of another miscarriage and how you would cope with that.
If your desire for a baby is overwhelming, then you will want to go ahead regardless of possible pregnancy loss.
But if it was just “might be nice for DS to have a sibling, but no big deal”, then you might be less inclined to try.
I don’t think anyone on MN can make a decision for you, but you can use us as a sounding board to examine your feelings.
Take your time, and let yourself heal before the next step.

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