‘Flock of sheep’

[Ellie2015]

My LG is a single child-4 year old. With covid just like many other kids she has missed her friends. today the after school club carer told my husband on pick up ‘she does everything fine but she behaves like a flock of sheep’, she does everything same what others are doing...she even requests the same snacks...
I am not sure whether it’s a positive or negative trait...but I know LG does this so she doesn’t loose her friends (who are almost a year older than her and are more strong minded than her). Experienced mums please advise if this is normal not normal concerning not concerning and what to do not to do. Thanks a ton x

PS: I originally posted it in ‘developement’ subgroup as didn’t notice this subgroup. So you may have read my post there but central to this is her being single child so perhaps more appropriate here.

I'm not an expert on child development but that's something I probably did as a child, in an attempt to fit it and make friends. In fact I still did everything my peers did when I was a teenager because I was insecure and didn't want to stand out. So my gut feeling says it's just normal, especially with these turbulent times, she may be feeling a bit insecure and just does what everyone else does.

Does she talk about school/the club at all? Maybe you could casually ask about it if she's telling about an event at school etc? (Although I can appreciate this may not be the easiest. Mine is 4 but still in nursery, and it's so hard to extract any information on what they've done because they "can't remember". )

Thank you. She tells me everything and she is aware that she does ‘copy’ them but she says it’s because she wants to play together nicely. Bless her heart...

I don't think this is anything to do with being a single child and it's perhaps just her personality. I am the oldest of three and I remember being like this when I was younger. I particularly copied a strong, popular girl in my class when I was around 9 or 10 and the teacher spoke to my parents about it. I've turned out fine I think! I think it's totally normal.