How to accept it's not the right time for another baby?

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Struggling with this. I'm desperate to have my babies close in age and I feel totally ready to get pregnant again.
It's just not the right time. Has anyone else been through this or got any advice?

Would you rather give birth alone, have little to no health visitor interaction, no help with breastfeeding and increased potential of catching a deadly virus

@LouiseTrees

Would you rather give birth alone, have little to no health visitor interaction, no help with breastfeeding and increased potential of catching a deadly virus

I gave birth to DS in lockdown and as it was my first experience I dont really know what exactly I missed out on. I did have to get induced alone but apart from that, had DH at the birth and only stayed 1 night after C section.

They've made changes to maternity services based on mental health for mothers etc, so it's even better now regardless of the pandemic.

It's not the right time for different reasons

I’m in the same boat OP - would love another baby but need to wait until next year for enhanced maternity leave/pay from work. I did 6 weeks statutory last time and couldn’t do it again! Few other reasons too.

How old is your first?

I gave birth to DS in lockdown

This means he's only a max of 9 months old, right?

You've got a long time before your babies won't be close in age. I know plenty of kids who are two or three years apart and are the best of friends...

Is the reason that it's not the right time something that you can work on in the meantime?

I am 41 and really want another baby. My son is nearly 1. My husband doesnt want another. I'm hoping he will change his mind b4 it's to late....

DS is 4 and I’m desperate to the point of insanity for another. DP is a hard no. I feel like I’m losing my mind most of the time.

I'm really upset. It wouldn't be a problem at the moment if I was younger. Its knowing theres not much time left. I love a big family. I love having my son and our new 3 but I want to experience having another child. I love my son and would be happy if a girl or another boy. Last night I was thinking of boys names.... it's really know my mind and I know it's a big thing and the birth was traumatic, my husband found it hard and I know it's a risk. But when I talk to him he is a firm no about it. When I mention if we won money he doesnt seem so bad towards the idea. So I think money is a big factor.... surely a chance of having a child is far greater than money.