How are you and your onlies doing?

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I've found this year has really emphasised the lack of sibling for my 8 yo.
It makes me feel very guilty for not providing her with a sibling but it wasn't to be

How are you making it fun for your dc?

Instagram is full of photos of big families wearing matching pjs or planning New Year's Eve parties for the kids. We will do something for her tonight but it's not the same is it?

Just wondered if anyone else felt the same?

I'm so glad you posted this. I feel the same as you.

I'm divorced so my child has been splitting time between here and her dad's house so at least there's a change of scenery. But I know she's lonely and wants other children to interact with.

I'm so thankful my daughter is in nursery full time so can mix with her friends and loves being at school.

We are doing something special each day wether it's a walk in the woods, to the park, baking or cooking, bike ride etc something that helps us to have time together and make happy memories.

I haven't got my daughter tonight as she's at her dad's, we wouldn't be celebrating Nye at mid night anyway but we normally have a mini disco in th living room with some buffet style food so it's different and special.

Honestly fine. There have been times I've thought DD could do with having someone else her own age to play with but she wouldn't necessarily get that with a sibling. Especially not the own age part. The age gap might be too big for them to play.

If this happened when I was young there would have been a roughly 3 year chunk of our lives it could have happened in for me and my siblings to play with each other, and then it would have been spattered liberally with arguments, teasing and tantrums. So reflecting on that we are all loving the calm in our house compared to what other family have in theirs. No one destroys her Lego or tells her her games are babyish or silly, she's a lot more free not having to live up to what other kids will not tease about. She has her own space without having to cry that someone's looking at her or touching her.

Video calls with other kids while they play roblox helps her a lot with having someone her own age to "play" with. Really she spends too long on screens for my liking but don't we all?

@Gwenhines

Honestly fine. There have been times I've thought DD could do with having someone else her own age to play with but she wouldn't necessarily get that with a sibling. Especially not the own age part. The age gap might be too big for them to play.

If this happened when I was young there would have been a roughly 3 year chunk of our lives it could have happened in for me and my siblings to play with each other, and then it would have been spattered liberally with arguments, teasing and tantrums. So reflecting on that we are all loving the calm in our house compared to what other family have in theirs. No one destroys her Lego or tells her her games are babyish or silly, she's a lot more free not having to live up to what other kids will not tease about. She has her own space without having to cry that someone's looking at her or touching her.

Video calls with other kids while they play roblox helps her a lot with having someone her own age to "play" with. Really she spends too long on screens for my liking but don't we all?

I think this is really good point. Siblings aren't necessarily friends in fact sometimes they're enemies!

My brother is 2 years younger than me and we used to squabble alot. And my sister is 8 years younger so we didn't have anything in common.