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JustStuck · 19/11/2020 22:02

I am 42 and have a 5 year old and have been trying for a second child for a few years now and have experienced losses along the way. It's been a really heartbreaking journey. I long and ache for another child. However I'm older now and wonder maybe I might be too old to have another one even if it is physically possible.
I am fit and in good health, hold a decent job, a home, with a very hands on partner and we are financially comfortable. However I wonder if this all enough? everyone around me had children much younger so I don't have anything to compare with.
I dont know any 50year old mums with a 5 year old, would I be embarrassed at the school gates next to to other 30 something mums? Would I feel tired too with it all? Would any potential child be ashamed of me? Some people over 50 are planning on retirement, yet I will still be at beginning. How would it feel to be 60 with a 15 year old?
What do other posters think? x

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Needanewnamenow · 22/11/2020 09:30

I'm slightly younger at nearly 41 but still trying for number two (after three miscarriages). It not easy at this age knowing it's technically possible but equally everyone tells you it's unlikely. I don't have the answer but just wanted to say there's are lots of older women who have children and they say it's fine. We can't turn back the clock and do it again at 25. If this is what you want this is your option. Best of luck op and I'm sorry for your losses.

JustStuck · 22/11/2020 18:24

Thanks for replying. I'm so sorry for your losses. I always planned to have completed my family now. It's a struggle adjusting my expectations and visualising the future.

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Needanewnamenow · 23/11/2020 16:21

I know exactly what you mean, I'm looking into counselling to help me accept bit just the miscarriages but also not having the family I pictured. Best of luck to you

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