Please help lol x

[hannahlouise20]

I have a child from a previous relationship and we share care for our LG things have been really really tough for me especially what he did to me n is continuing to let our girl go through. But has anybody been in this situation at all, been with my partner almost two years and we want to have a baby of our own (my last child) but I just don't want it to seem like I'm replacing my girl at all for the days I don't have her. I don't think it will be fair to my girl at all if I have another. But all I can think about is another baby but I breakdown everytime thinking of it (my LO has just turned 2)

Hi- I don’t have any experience but read your post and couldn’t not reply, you sound so sad.
What does this mean? “continuing to let our girl go through” what is he doing exactly?
I’m so sorry you are in this situation, I’m sure your little girl wouldn’t resent you for having another child. Not at age 2, but what environment is her father subjecting her to?
I’m sure others with experience will come on soon.

@Suzi888

Hi- I don’t have any experience but read your post and couldn’t not reply, you sound so sad. What does this mean? “continuing to let our girl go through” what is he doing exactly? I’m so sorry you are in this situation, I’m sure your little girl wouldn’t resent you for having another child. Not at age 2, but what environment is her father subjecting her to? I’m sure others with experience will come on soon.

Emotional abuse and his new gf continues to emotionally abuse her aswell, can't do nothing it's court ordered that she stays there

Have you reported to the police and social services?

I’m so sorry op that sounds horrendous, are you in the U.K?
I agree with the poster above, but hope someone can provide more detailed advice on what you can do. So hoping this gives you a bump...

@Suzi888

I’m so sorry op that sounds horrendous, are you in the U.K? I agree with the poster above, but hope someone can provide more detailed advice on what you can do. So hoping this gives you a bump...

Yes I'm in UK but he has social services already with his new baby and he's a danger to him because he smacked his gf in the face whilst she was holding him 😰 but they're not saying he's a danger to our daughter at all even though he attacked me whilst holding our baby (newborn at time) abused me throughout my pregnancy and after and raped me when she was 3 weeks old 😥

That doesn’t make any sense, to monitor only the one child - you must be beside yourself with worry.

@Suzi888

That doesn’t make any sense, to monitor only the one child - you must be beside yourself with worry.

I honestly am, I dread it all, his gf is spiteful and jealous of our daughter everything, threatened me said I'm a bad mum talking about our court order, got her uncle to try and beat up my baby's dad whilst our baby was there, she does drugs (not round our girl) but she's so sick in the head and he allows it all 😭 I have to wait until I'm in my own home to take him back to court as I'm living at home still sharing a room with my sister I just want it all to finish and be okay

Your situation with your ex sounds terrible but if your child is just 2, are you not rushing it thinking of having a baby with a new partner?

@Igotmyholiday

Your situation with your ex sounds terrible but if your child is just 2, are you not rushing it thinking of having a baby with a new partner?

Sorry I replied so late! It won't be now at all it'll be more into the future I'm on contraception rn! But had some good news and phoned up my solicitor and he's wanting to go back to court in the new year and fight for her!! Saying I have loads of positive evidence and it will most likely get over turned!! (Current court order) so hopefully my baby will be home SAFE with me and my family where she belongs ❤️

Good luck OP, hope all turns out well.