Will my perspective change?

[yoyoyo5678]

I have one 4 mo DS who is amazing. So well behaved and sleeps well for day time naps and only wakes once in the night. Despite this I think I have struggled with some returning anxiety since his birth and a difficult relationship with his father but we are getting back on track now. I always thought I'd want at least 2 children, maybe more. So why do I feel done now I have him? Is it just too soon? Has anyone's perspective changed as their baby got older?
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@yoyoyo5678.. hi, I was absolutely besotted with DS when he was a baby. Even with him not sleeping for months! I thought I'd never want another. Then when my periods returned we kind of tried but not very often and we had a horrible rented house with damp and no hope of escape so we never could have another. I was 41 when I had DS and now at 48 I would give anything for another but it's not happening which is ironic seeing that we at last have our own house!

So I would say enjoy this precious time with your baby and try not to think of another just yet. What will be will be x

I would have said I was done up until DD was about 12 months when I started feeling like I’d like another at some point. It may or may not change for you so I wouldn’t make any kind of decision yet.

It's very early days OP, no need to decide now unless you're really worried about age/fertility etc. I was very happy for DD to be an only for a long time. Once she turned two or so, she became sometimes genuinely good company, and there are now at 3 little hints of the person she is, how she cares about her family and friends, her joy at things, how she loves to cuddle us... and it makes me want another because seeing her flourish like that is intoxicating.

I think that at 4m old you need to just relish and enjoy your baby.

You may change your mind, you may not. I never felt broody again after having DD and she is now 5. It is very early days for you though, so I would just enjoy your baby and see how you feel further down the line.