Am I a selfish mum?

[Heidyx]

Do you think its selfish to decide to only have one child because it will be easier on finances and means we wont have to move.
Yes we could have another child which would cause us to struggle financially abit, we definitely wont be able to afford the things we can for our only child and for ourselves. We only wont be able to afford to buy a bigger place , which means either staying in our cramped home (which will be cramped if we add another person to it) or sell up and rent a bigger place.

No. It is more selfish to have two children. Basically, all these decisions are made out of selfishness, that is how we decide whether to have children or not. But for environmental reasons, the more you have, the more selfish it actually is

Yeah. I mean I feel either decision I chose is going to be selfish anyway 😓

We would be the same. If we had another child we wouldn't definitely have to sell and get a bigger place and we would prob struggle financially. I don't think it's selfish as such to not have another child but I often think about my childhood and how fun it was having siblings and that my daughter will miss out on that and when she's older she won't have a sibling she could have a great relationship with. I find it sad but my partner is dead set on not having another child.

Typo, would not wouldn't

Yes , I always had my younger sister growing up , always someome to play with etc. Im not close with either of my siblings now unfortunately. I do wonder whats more important not struggling financially or adding a sibling and struggling .. i know everything is materalistic but still

No. There are pros and cons on both sides and all you can do is decide what's best for you.

No it's not selfish at all. Sounds quite sensible to me. Pros and cons for both

It's ridiculous to add to your family based on the notion that they would have a positive lifelong relationship with siblings.
Stick to one and enjoy the benefits it brings on all kinds of levels.