I phoned OH mum...now what?

[sameexperience]

I'm hoping I've name changed...but if I haven't please feel free to drag up my life...because that's how I feel is happening right now.

My partner has always been argumentative, moody, grumpy etc...but I took that as just being who we are. But recent it's got a bit too much. Kids aren't his. And he shouts at them. A lot: makes my eldest cry, youngest couldnt give a crap.

Anyway. Tonight he was arsey. Really loud. The neighbours looked over to ask if I was ok. I said yes. But about two hours later it escalated and I was so scared I phoned his mum. She collected him. 2 hours later I get a text to say "you wanted him gone...I collected hmm". Now what?!?! Kids are in bed and I don't know what to do. I could cry a river ,

Whatever way she intended that message - and it's not really clear tbh - just take tonight to get some rest & thank your lucky stars that he's gone.
The only thing I would suggest at the moment is text her tomorrow with a "Thank you. I'll have his stuff packed ready for collection on x. If you or anyone other than him can arrange to collect it that would be great."
It must have been bad for your neighbour to be prepared to intervene. Your children are growing up unhappy & afraid with him around. He's not worth any effort so don't put any in.
No matter how bad it seems tonight/over the next few days you'll get through it all.

I think the fact that he escalated and you felt scared says it all really. And the fact he's making your eldest upset just shows he's not in this relationship to be a kind and loving step parent and partner.
If it were me, I would be having a bottle of wine, locking the door and going to bed. Leave the sod at his mother's. There's no coming back from feeling scared. No one should ever feel scared from their partner.
Ignore his mum. Block her number. Out of sight out of mind. Accept no bullshit excuse for his piss poor behaviour.

Thank God he is gone?
Make sure he never comes back?
Remember someone who is always grumpy and argumentative should not share your life?
I bet your youngest does give a crap.

Thank his mother for collecting him and tell her his stuff will be outside for collection NOT BY HIM tomorrow Then enjoy your freedom and your kids HUGS

Tell her she can collect his stuff on x date. Then concentrate on you and your children and be thankful you don't have to walk on eggshells anymore. Don't give him or her any more thought.

I'd be on my knees thanking god that my poor children were finally free of him.

I'm so glad she collected him, thank fuck. Who cares what she messages you, or what she means. He is gone!!! Wonderful news. Block her, and him, and move on with your one beautiful precious life.

Maybe ask for this to be moved op. I don't think one child families board is the right place for this and you may get more replies elsewhere.