DNA test

[Minty56]

I'm dad of 6yr old. He's mum and I split up a while. But shared custody. I've noticed he doesn't look like me and and had a feeling something wasn't right. Had a DNA test done without mum's knowledge. Turns out I'm not his dad....I'm broken......someone please help

I saw nobody has replied yet so sorry to hear about what has happened. Must be very difficult.

Are you on the birth certificate? That will affect a lot of the legal rights

I'm on birth certificate

That means you have parental responsibility.

Probably best to bring the situation up with your ex and see what they say?

Do you wish to continue a relationship with the child? If not then technically your ex could still take you to CMS and make you pay towards the child's upbringing as you have parental responsibility.

What an awful situation to be in. Depending on how you want to continue with the relationship with the child, who probably sees you as their father, you could be removed from the birth certificate as you have proof

See:
www.gov.uk/correct-birth-registration

Pressed post too soon!

If you manage to get removed, then you'll no longer have parental responsibility I believe, but you may want to seek advice from a solicitor.

Wasn't aware it was so easy to get birth certificate corrected! If the mother is unwilling to do an 'approved' dna test you can take to court to get one done

But yes, whether you'd still like to be 'father' to this child or not, best to consult a family solicitor about options and rights.

I'm sorry about your situation. I find this kind of deception by women deplorable.

I hope you reach a solution that feels right for you.

I personally wouldn't want to have to pay CS for a child that isn't mine for many years to come.