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I want to have another Baby but my Partner doesn't

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Tabs1989 · 19/02/2020 19:46

Hi! I gave birth to a beautiful little boy 5 months ago. I absolutely love and enjoy being a new mum despite the difficult yet rewarding challenges. Before I was pregnant, me and my partner always spoke about how we can't wait to be parents and to start our very own family. Like most people, we see ourselves having 1-2-3 or more children in the future. And 2 was always a common decision and wish. Now that we have our beautiful first child, I kind of brought it up with him that I would love to have another one in the near future so that our boy has a sibling to grow up with and won't be feeling alone or bored when it comes to play times or holidays. I had a very traumatic birth and my partner found the first few months very hard to get over it. So it was out of question for him and for me. But I have all forgotten about it. My partner finds parenting a little hard and struggles with certain tasks and it still doesn't come natural to him to make decisions like changing nappies, feeding etc. I am always the one who makes the decision but have told him to just do it whenever he thinks it needs done.
Now, my partner is all against having another baby. He's 42 and I am 30 so waiting for a few years is almost no option. I am heartbroken because this is what I really, really want. And there's nothing worse than being told absolutely not 😔 I don't know what to do.. this has really brought me down. And I am so sure that his mind won't change because he's having a hard time enjoying the new role to the fullest

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BooseysMom · 19/02/2020 20:22

Congratulations on your baby boy! Flowers
I was almost 41 when i had DS and it was a traumatic birth and completely knocked me sideways. Although i wanted another i knew there wasn't much chance. We left having him too late and had given up ttc after 2 mcs so he was a huge surprise!
So i can kind of understand why your partner is not keen tbh..he's that bit older and the transition to parenthood hits some harder than others. Being 30 you do have more time on your side and so he might feel differently in a year or so. I would just enjoy the child you have and try not to stress. (Easier said than done i know!).I never wanted DS to be an only but he's 6 now and seems fine. He has friends around to play and has never wanted a sibling. He gets to keep his own room too!
So what i'm trying to say is if it doesn't happen there are alot of positives about having one. I hope things work out for you. Btw you have the best to come! I simply adored DS at 12 months. The early years are incredible. Enjoy your beautiful boy!
Good luck x

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