Plea for help and similar stories

[BooseysMom]

So, i have a DS aged 6. My only. Had him at 41. I'm 47 now and as the time passes, i have to come to terms with DS being an only. We tried for years but things were never right, my DH got ill, we didn't have our own house, always something plotting against us at every turn. Then finally we have our own house, a 2 bed, and i'm too old! So i would love to hear stories of how things worked out for you as a one-child family. I thought i had finally made peace with it but obviously i hadn't. What set this off was another thread where someone posted that with a sibling you have someone to share memories with. That kind of punched me in the stomach as i hadn't thought of that. Is it really that important to have siblings?

My ds is 13 and an only child. I will forever feel sad that he has no siblings, as he has no cousins who are close. We just never had the money to have more children, although we would have loved more.

Saying that, I take some comfort in the fact that I have five living siblings (my sister died some years ago, and she was the only one I got on with) who I have nothing to do with as we don’t get along, so having siblings doesn’t automatically mean you have someone to share things with in life.

@Mummyshark2018.. thank you for your post. It's interesting to hear about your experiences with siblings. Sorry to hear about your poor DM and the stress she had with her siblings. So often you hear of family breakdown and resentment. It's the same with my lot! They are currently divided due to a massive fallout and we rarely see my nieces. On the other hand DH's family i feel more close to so DS has good relationships on that side although his cousins are alot older. He has a 1 year old cousin too now i'm hoping he becomes close to in time. I think you're right about the fact that having siblings doesn't guarantee life long happy memories

@TheReluctantCountess.. thanks for posting. We're the same in that we couldnt afford any more DCs.

@richtea12.. thanks for posting. I have been the same, becoming obsessed with the whole sibling thing. I think your DS being loud and attention seeking is prob normal for a boy and i would have thought having siblings wouldn't help matters as they constantly fight to get attention. Imagine the stress and noise then! I tell myself to make me feel better anyway!