Feel like my life is on hold

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Anyone else feel like this

I've been deliberating over having another for so long that I've stayed in a job I don't like for too long in case I want another baby

Anyway bit the bullet and tried this summer. I got pregnant straight away to me surprise as I'm older but it ended in a loss which affected me badly and I had to have surgery.

Now back at work and it's incredibly stressful ( they don't know why I was off other than it was an op)

I've been offered another job which is really good but I'm scared to take it in case I want to try again and it happens and I need security and mat pay

The reality is even if we do it probably won't happen as I'm older but I still feel it's holding me back so much

Sorry to hear of your loss.
I'm not in exactly the same situation as you but if you wanted advice i would say take the job. You don't know what's around the corner and you might regret it if you don't. Congratulations and the best of luck x

Take the job. Don't put your life on hold as you never know what's Going to happen. I stayed in an awful company because I felt I should and I was pregnant, counter down the days till I could go on mat leave, left and never came back. Was poorer financially but not in any other way!

Yes, although slightly different outcome, I stayed in a job way longer than I would otherwise have done because we wanted another baby when our LO was about 3. Tried for over a year and didn't get pregnant, then we decided to have a break from trying and ultimately that we would be happy staying as a family of three. I felt like my life was on hold until I was fully comfortable with our decision. People were saying to just keep trying and if it happens, it happens, but I really wanted a new job and felt like I couldn't start looking in case I got pregnant quickly. I was wrong really, but my head was a mess so I couldn't think straight. Am 8 months into my new job and we are still staying with our one (no longer trying), but I'm out of my comfort zone and so glad I made the jump. As others have said, you just have to go for it and if you are lucky enough to get pregnant then you may even be secure for mat pay by that point. If not, you get statutory pay and just get by on that, with a lovely baby! You'll be less stressed, no longer feeling stuck, so it may happen once the weight has lifted. Go for it if you'll be able to get by on statutory pay!