Considering counselling over baby number 2

[kjayne84]

Im currently really struggling with the reality of being the mum of one ... for good! It’s not where I saw myself. I always wanted two. A little brother or sister for our son (5 yr old). I know he’d be an amazing big brother and he often comments on other kids with babies in the family and asks why we don’t have one. I find this incredibly hard. Especially at the minute. It seems everyone I know is having 2nd or 3rd. My closest friends are all either pregnant or planning to be.
I’m desperate for a second child. Have been for a long time. But my DH is dead against it.

He has a variety of reasons. Some of which I understand and some which seem like excuses.

I’m now considering couples counselling so I can get a better understanding of his concerns and/or maybe I can come to terms with being a mum of one for the foreseeable? but it’s not cheap. The minimum cost would be £45 an hour.
Is it worth it? ... how many sessions will we need?

Anyone any advice?

Hi

Sorry to hear you are struggling with this.

My dh is reluctant for another too ( as was I until about a year ago) then I decided I did and I've been trying to persuade him since but I fear we are now too old and have ran out of time and he still hasn't given a definitive yes! I think you just need to keep talking

What are his reasons?
Can you give him any reassurance?

I wouldn't have got my dh to go to a counsellor. He never would have agreed but good for you if you can get yours along .. I think it would be money well spent! It's taken me a long time to get to the point we are at now with lots of arguments and tears!