Will I regret having 1 or will I regret having 2...

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3 years ago I gave birth to my amazing little boy. The birth was traumatic, I won’t go into details, but after months of tests post natally I was offered a c-section if I were to have a second child. This didn’t matter as we were set in having one. We were both too scared, we are both only’s and life seems pretty good with just one. Until last week when I had doubts, should we have two, are we depriving him of a sibling. You see last week I was given a date for a an operation, super nervous, and also my son keeps asking for a sibling. Perhaps this two things have made me rethink. I don’t know, I am confused and reaching out for advice. I have no one I can talk too as I’ve told too many people we are stopping at one, feels wrong to to talk about changing my mind. Please any help or advice would be great.

What were your original reasons for sticking at 1?

To my mind a child does not get to decide whether or not they have a sibling. It's a huge decision.

Why is your operation making you reconsider?

I'm not sure you'd regret having two per se, you might regret the birth but I've yet to meet someone who regrets the child.

I don't think there is a right answer. Probably best to wait until after your operation and decide with a clear head.

I’m currently battling with whether we want to have a second child at some point. My DS is 13 months and I had a traumatic birth and suffered from pnd and huge amounts of anxiety for the first 6/7 months. I got pushed out of my job so have become s sahm and my dh thinks it’s a good time to consider a second child so I can have a shorter career gap. I’m on the fence as my son is still a nightmare sleeper so I’m not sure I could go through it all again even though I know I’d love the child dearly.

What were you main reasons for wanting to stick to one child?

I’d also agree with the pp and say wait until after your op. It’s a huge decision to make.

Depends on reasons why you only wanted one child?

Your little one is still very young so there's plenty of time (although not sure what's your age?).

I always only wanted one child and was open to people about it, but when my DD turned 10 I changed my mind and now am a happy mummy to 2kids. People soon got over the fact I changed my mind about not having more kids.