38...... should I try for baby no 2?

[mummydummyabc]

I cannot shake this thought out of my head. I guess approaching the new year makes me contemplate the big decisions. My little boy is 3 and a half now and I just wonder if it would be better to give him a sibling. I would hate for him to be a lonely child.

I try to bring it up with my husband but he doesn't seem terribly keen as he worries about the chaos a new baby brings. It's stupid but I find it hard to talk about it as I feel conflicted myself. He wasn't sure he wanted kids in the first place but he ended up being a brilliant daddy.

What would you do?

@mummydummyabc...I was in the exact same position as you 12 months ago. After much thought, and being really honest with myself, I came to the decision that I didn't want a second. I didn't feel I could/should have another baby just to give my daughter a sibling. For various reasons it just wouldn't have been right for us, and I know I can be the mum I want to be to my wonderful one. My husband would have been supportive either way, and accepted that I wouldn't have coped well with a second. I did feel a bit sad but don't think my daughter misses out. She has lots of friends and cousins nearby and I love how close the three of us are, I wouldn't want anything to change that. Of course there are also no guarantees that siblings will get on.

Obviously everyone feels differently and is making the decision in their own circumstances. There was something about knowing I was approaching 40 that made me wobble! But happy with our decision. I don't think onlies are lonelier than kids with siblings (mine certainly isn't!) and I feel there are loads of advantages. Hope you come to the right decision for you all .

If you want one and your husband is on the fence then just go for it. You regret the things you don't do.

38 is still loads of time. Some people don't event start until they are 40.

Good luck. I hope you have a positive chat with your husband and come to a good choice for your family.

Yes, gut feeling tells me I will regret not trying for another. I think I just have to brave it and have the conversation. How difficult is it making the transition from one to two?