Limited support and thinking about having number 2

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I have a beautiful 18 month old and I am very happy with our family life but my husband would love to try for number 2. I am on the fence....

We live quite a way from our close family and friends and found having a baby quite lonely and I struggled without much help. My husband has a demanding job and works long hours and is busy at network events out of hours.

Has anyone else gone on to have number 2 with limited support? I’m quite shy and don’t make friends easily....

I’d love my little one to have a brother or sister but not sure I’d cope....,.

Your youngest is only 18 months, if you're having doubts I'd say wait unless there's a reason why you have to decide quick, such as your biological clock?

I have a 10 year difference between my two kids which is a huge difference and I found quite unusual. But I wouldn't change it for a thing! whilst I look at my friends who chose to have kids close feeling trapped, depressed and not managing I have an extra helper instead. I know it's not for everyone but the point is to better have another one when you are ready rather than rushing

Hi I live on my own with my 3 kids age 4 months , 2 and 5 I know what you mean by being lonely . There dad don't live near by and visits once a week . Even though it's hard work . It helps having my eldest around for my 2 year old because they go off and play together my toddler gets quite bored without his sister . . But if you ain't coping to well at the moment maybe just wait until your little one is 3 . . I think it gets easier at that age and a 3 year gap is a good one xx

Mine had a 2.5 year gap. We had/have 0 practical support - family was far away and rarely visited.
Maybe think about what support you would like to have - is it time in nursery for your oldest, a babysitter, someone to come and babysit while you sleep, regular night out.
Or just time to go for a coffee.