Struggling Father.

[Mooieminnie21]

Hello all,
Our baby has just turned one, I've returned to work and he's started nursery 2 days a week and is with dad, MIL or me for the other 3 days. For the last four weeks our little one has been ill with various different things and had his 1yr jabs last week and now has conjunctivitis in both eyes so proper been through it. However Has anyone else experienced their partner (the dad) just having no patience with their child and it's like the child irritates them? I don't know how to help and it's causing major issues now. I don't understand it at all.

I'm a struggling dad. I adore my little one, but me personally being a father doesn't come natural. Long story, issues with my own childhood, lack of love and feeling wanted etc. So love, nurture and feelings don't come natural to me. I dont have as much patience as my wife who is a natural. So with my own childhood, working long hours, lack of sleep I am regretfully a bit snappy with her. Always feel bad after but its something I'm trying to work on... Look at my thread on being a parent called 'being a dad' for why I occasionally feel the way I do. Might help you understand your other half or maybe show it to him and he maybe can relate.

It's under parenting forum

My DD is 6 months and I can often tell her dad is getting annoyed with her when she cries or is wingey I'm really struggling to deal with him myself atm there is no 50/50 with childcare I have to do it all because he just doesn't.. my husband has childhood issues which have caused sever anxiety and depression and I try to be understanding of that but lately I'm so close to just leaving. I have no advise but I have plenty of empathy for your situation and hope it gets better xx