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everydaymum · 17/10/2018 02:50

Hi,

My DS in an only child (apart from adult step-siblings). DS is also only-grandchild of DM. We have the usual busy life, a couple of after school activities, occasional play dates, homework (not heaps, he's only 6), playing etc. DH works late and we don't see him during the week so that makes weekends busier trying to fit in appointments (haircuts, dr, dentist etc), time for the 3 of us, seeing step siblings and ILS etc.

The problem is DM is not happy we don't see her more. She lives in same town and comes to one after school activity with us each week (to watch), but aside from that gets put into the 'roster' (not official), to be seen amongst ILs, DHs siblings etc. If she had other GCs I think she wouldn't be so uppity about it, but she doesn't.

DM could drop into our house after school when we're home (and then DS has own toys, can do homework etc), but she doesn't, she wants us visiting at her house (I think so DS isn't distracted by being a regular 6yo).

As it stands our midweek priorities are school, homework, activities, play dates (as DS is only child I feel that's really important), plus some free time. And on weekends it's appointments, time for 3 of us (me, DH and DS), and time for step-kids. After that ILs, DM, friends. If DH was home more during the week I wouldn't need to put aside specific time on weekends for just the 3 of us, and we could see more people, but he's not so that's how we manage.

So I have a few Q's, how often do you see DM/DD? Do you go there or do they come to you?

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MumUnderTheMoon · 28/10/2018 18:46

My mum comes to our house every Monday we spend some time together while my dd is at school then the three of us spend a few hours together. Sometimes we go there on a Sunday or do the odd cinema trip on a Friday or Wednesday if there's something we all really want to see. Tell dm that if she isn't willing to change the situation (in this case by coming to you during the week the odd time) then she isn't allowed to complain. Maybe she's lonely? Suggest joining some clubs or doing some volunteer work so that she has more going on than just you and you dc. And gave a strait forward conversation with her explaining that the complaining is making you miserable.

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