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Is having one really so bad?

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Bexicle22 · 29/09/2018 09:25

I have a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. Me and my partner ttc for two years (stopped actively trying in July this year) but had no luck. We had every fertility test done and there’s nothing obvious wrong with either of us so were told we have unexplained infertility.

It upsets me sometimes as I would love another child but I also would love my daughter to have a sibling. Every year the age gap gets bigger and I still don’t get pregnant and it hurts me but there’s nothing I can do so that’s just the way it is.

My daughter has asked for a sibling a few times. She said she’s lonely without one. I’ve explained I would love to give her one but unfortunately I can’t. She kind of understands but I’m sure it still doesn’t stop her longing for one.

I always see people being so negative about one-child families. That when they’re older, they will feel very alone as they’ll have nobody when you’re gone. It makes me sad to read because it’s not through my own choice that I only have one child but even if it was, does it really matter? I have two sisters so don’t have any experience of being an only child. Is it really as terrible as people make out it is? I guess I feel bad enough that I can’t give my daughter a sibling so reading stuff about how much “worse off” an only child is.

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livesbx · 29/09/2018 10:16

It's not bad at all imo. I'm an only had a great childhood, never felt lonely, very close to dps, lots of opportunities and support both in time and finances from dps

Now I have one dc of my own and I like it. It may very well stay that way as I am not keen on another for all of the above reasons.

I think I will be a better mum to one and my dc is very happy and I know from my own experience they will be fine

Try to stop worrying and focus on the benefits.. I know it must be hard if you had your heart set on another one but if there is nothing you can do about it it's better to enjoy what you have

Fatas · 05/10/2018 16:45

One is better than none right? I also sad about having another so that is the only way for me to look at it right now. You can also afford and invest lots into one and they’ll be rich when you die.

Fatas · 05/10/2018 16:45

I meant- I am also sad about not having another!

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