Ex moving away

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Bella1976 · 13/08/2018 10:44

Does anyone have any experience of the absent parent relocating . My daughters dad is moving 6 hours drive away and has quit his job . So I’ve instigated a contact and financial provision order at family court but he says I wont get a penny ( although he has £40k savings ) up to now he’s paid maintenance plus half of holiday child care in addition to having her alternate weekends so I’ve build my weekend working as self employed around the dates he has her . Any experiences you can share most welcome :)

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PrettyLovely · 13/08/2018 10:56

He isnt an absent parent if he has contact with his child I think you mean Non resident parent.
Has he said he is not going to see his child anymore when he moves and not pay maintenance at all or just whilst he finds a new job?

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Bella1976 · 13/08/2018 11:58

He says ge’ll Still see her but won’t commit to when and that he has no money to pay . My thoughts are that if he can afford to quit work why can’t he pay? As he could’ve transferred with his job as he travels do his home base can be anywhere in the UK . The contact order is so I can get him to commit to times and dates so my daughter knows when to expect to see him as he frequently cancels our informal alternate weekend arrangement now to go out!

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PrettyLovely · 13/08/2018 12:19

He should at the very least have discussed with you his plans for contact its totally unfair.
He sounds really selfish.
I am not sure you will get anywhere financially if he doesnt have a job, also in regards to contact at least you have done your best.
It should be a punishable offence to run off and leave your child with a lone parent it is neglect.

Aprilshowersinaugust · 13/08/2018 12:24

Unfortunately a contact order can't force him to see your dd.
Cms all the way though.

PatriciaHolm · 13/08/2018 12:26

Unfortunately even if you get a contact order, he can still cancel if he likes - the order will just mean you have to make her available, not that he has to see her.

VimFuego101 · 13/08/2018 12:33

As others have said, there is no way of forcing him to stick to the contact schedule, so it would be worth having a backup plan if you need childcare at those times while you work.

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Bella1976 · 13/08/2018 12:42

Thanks guys I’m just disappointed the law means he can do as he pleases he can swan off into the sunset with no regard for his daughter . I’d hoped the contact order meant my daughter would have had a level of comfort of guaranteed dates to see him

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