No issues with first born but not feeling the need for another?

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I read loads of messages about people with one kid and their reasons are bad births, trouble to conceive, bad PND. I had a great pregnancy, birth, no PND, no relationship/financial issues and a great sleeper from 12 weeks (now 3yo) I feel like I don't have. Reason to justify only wanting one! Please tell me I'm not alone??? Why do I feel guilty when I see a faking of 4? I'm 38 and no much time left!!! If the only reason is for when we're old, surely that's not a good enough reason is it?

One is fine OP. I know plenty of adult, lone children and they're all well adjusted and happy. No need for extras if circumstances haven't gone that way!

I wouldn't worry, just say something along the lines of feeling your family is perfect the way it is.

Of all my friends, the one without siblings is the most caring, fun and dependable one of the bunch. And the rest are brilliant so that's saying something! Don't fret about having an only child, I don't think they're at a disadvantage nowadays.

Don’t do it unless you want another just as fiercely as you did your first. A family of three is wonderful!

I'm the same. No desire for 2nd but feel I should because dd1 is nearly 4 and feel the time to do it is slipping away. We have a great life, financially very stable and everything sort of mapped out (as much as it can be). Currently enjoying sorting out the old clothes and baby paraphernalia and can't wait to be rid yet still keeping lots of things.... just in case!

I'm an only who loved being an only, and DD is an only as well. It's an entirely legitimate choice just as having two kids, three kids, five kids or no kids is a legitimate choice. Most of the "research" about the problems with only children is just debunked Victorian nonsense anyway. Do what makes you happy!

I don't feel the need for another either, I am enjoying working and being a bit more independent and love the free time me and DH get as a result of having one, also the reduced mental load that would only get bigger as kids get older (or so I'm told).

My only reason I doubt it is I feel guilt at not providing the sibling relationship and noisy family home life, and worries about the burden of old parents on just one. Also don't think that's a good enough reason?!

DD is nearly 7 months but I don't think I'll have another.
Exact same as you for no reason only I feel this is how are family should be. I felt 1 was enough before I was pregnant.
We can devote so much time, energy and money into her while still selfishly having a bit of us time.
We keep saying wow if we had another how could you give as much attention to either child?

DH is an only and loved it.
I'm from a big family though and do get on with and love all my siblings.

The only doubt I have about not having another is when we are old I definitely don't want to be a burden on DD.
I'm hoping to plan for that though, I won't want her having to do anything or feeling responsible.
Plus she has loads of aunts, uncles and cousins who I know will be a big support to her too.

Thank you all for ur comments, feels good to know I'm not the only one with these feelings!!

I'm the same too OP. Happy as a three. You don't need to justify your choices about your family to anyone, there can be many, many reasons and if people ask just say it's private if you don't want them to pry.

My dd is 11 I'm definitely not starting over now! I did think about siblings when she was little for a few months, researched adoption because I had always wanted to do that, decided when she was 18months that she was it. Haven't wavered once.