Hi all,
I've spent a few hours reading all the threads on this board & it has been fantastic! I'd really appreciate other people's views on our current situation.
My DH and I met, moved in together and had our DS within a year. There were obvious challenges with essentially becoming a family before we became a couple but we did very well and got through the good times and the bad. Our son is 3 and a bit and very very happy. And we got married 2 months ago and we are very very happy.
We are at the stage now where we would both like a second child but here's the problem. My DH is 50. I'm 41. I know we could cope with anything life throws at us. We both have very good jobs and certainly would have the flexibility for 1 of us to go part-time or take a break from work for a while. My DH is the youngest 50 year old you could meet. So the next few years, we'd be fine.
It's the future I worry about. If we were super lucky & concieved quickly, my DH would be 51 when a baby would arrive. That means by the time he retires (65) the child would only be 14. So at a time when we should be putting our feet up & enjoying life, we'd have to keep working and that's best case scenario.......worst case, one of us isn't around at all.
So logically, sticking with our 1, wonderful DS makes sense on so many levels. But every time I see a baby I am a blubbering mess. Add to that my son is now aware of all his little friends having sisters & brothers and it kills me. And the other thing is that I worry about him being alone when we are gone. None of my siblings have kids (or plan to) and my DH's are all in another country & while they have kids, there isn't a close relationship or even a reasonable prospect of one.
We both say that if DH was 5 years younger, this would not even be a question. I'm interested in other people's views and experiences of being a (much) older parent.
TIA. x