If you thought you would just have just one child for a long time did you change your mind?

[fortunatepiggy1]

And if so how do you feel now?

There are lots of posters struggling with the decision of whether or not to go for a second

Lots of previous posters have also started threads on this.. can you share with us what you decided and how you feel now?

Hi

Time has made the decision for me I fear. I have dithered too long and now it's too late. Dh is not keen.. feels we are too old and age gap too big but I think would be perfectly happy if it did happen....we have half heartedly tried but nothing has happened . I feel better that I have at least tried ( even thought I haven't really) that absolves some responsibility I think!

I am very happy with our perfect family but I will always wonder what if...

My daughter is almost 12 and I haven't wavered in my decision since I made it when she was one. Before that I thought I might like another and investigated adoption as I didn't want to get pregnant again but in the end I decided that my dd and I were a great wee unit as we were. She's a thoroughly happy only child and doesn't lament the loss of any hypothetical siblings.

I have an 11yo DD and my DS is nearly 5 months old. Huge age gap. My DD pretty much grew up as an only child until I changed my mind and decided I want another one or will forever regret and wonder 'what if'. I'm glad I had another one. My DD is happy she's not the only one anymore and loves having a sibling. It's ok to have just the one but for us it's worked out nicely. I also have to say if I'm honest it's been a completely different experience having my second child. Perhaps it's because I'm older now. I'm enjoying everything more than I did when I was younger and had my DD. And my DD is a fantastic helper