Happy with one

[Kcrab83]

I have a 12 yo son and struggled ttc for over 5 years. Having now grieved and come to terms with not being able too have another, I am VERY happy just having the one and actively do not want a baby now.

However my husband would like to adopt a 3/4 year old at some point in the future . Selfishly this would mean organising more childcare, school runs, extra expense and less 'me time. I just cant imagine having to do all that stuff again. Anyone else happy with 'just one?

I have one and am quite happy.

I always thought I'd end up with two but made peace with having one. Genetic counselling we had since having our kid firmly disabused us of the possibility of any more.

I would like to point out that even at 3/4 years old, adopting a child may mean dealing with a damaged kid from a neglected or abusive background and have additional needs and require special handling. Not to mention the huge volume of kids with disabilities awaiting placement.

Plus depending on the contact arrangements in place for the child to be in contact with their bio family, could be a nightmare.

This isn't me being a bitch, but you would need to have a long think about whether you have in in you to start over. Will your OH be up to doing the majority of care if you don't want the hassle of childcare? Are you ready for jumping through all the vetting, interviews, training, meetings etc adoption brings? I'd take a look at the adoption boards too.

I'm happy with one.

He is only three and I've had lingering doubts over the past 6 months that I should have another so that he can have a sibling.

But I've had stern words with myself about that because I just don't want anymore. I can't make such a life altering decision for him.

Life is fab with one.

Well yes, obviously I understand children ready for adoption may come with a unique set of challenges. I chose not to mention that as it wasn't really the point of my post.