Help! Sorry very long story....
I am in a huge dilemma. Do I terminate this pregnancy?
Have been married for 11 and a half years, and it’s been a roller coaster. We have the most amazing 7 year old daughter and I can’t imagine loving anyone as much as her - she is my world.
Although I do love my husband he is not easy, his actions mainly relating back to alcohol have caused our life to be like a roller coaster. We did separate for a time just under 2 years ago when he got banned from driving for a 2nd time.
90% of the time he’s great, he’s a wonderful father but I think he has undiagnosed mental health problems.
Anyway fast forward to Christmas this year, best yet! Harmonious family time even with his parents staying. The frisky celebrations were “unprotected” and a dashed down to the chemist the next day and took the morning after pill. Despite that here I am sat in work with no period, massive boobs and a big fat positive pregnancy test.
Now had last weeks events not happened I may have been more positive (but shocked as it’s unplanned) about having another baby. BUT he got sacked from work last week because he smelt of beer when he got into work. His boss is a bitch as was looking for an excuse to get rid of him but i’m so cross he played into her hands.
So now he’s looking for another job which with his past history doesn’t make for a great CV.
So now not only am I worrying how we will pay the mortgage but now worrying about whether or not to tell him i’m pregnant and or have a termination.
I know he wanted another child and my daughter would love a brother or sister but I don’t know if I could cope (or afford) with a second child on the already manic roller coaster of my life.