To have another child or not?

[JnAb23]

My husband and I are currently thinking about having another child. I say my husband and I, but really I think it’s just me! We have a three year old boy together but he was previously married and has three other children who stay with us every three weeks. My husband is obviously concerned about having another child as this will mean he will have five but I really don’t want my son missing out on having a sibling that he lives with. I then think about the benefits of just having one child such as finances and the ability to spend quality time with our son but I just can’t shake the guilty feeling I would have if I didn’t give my son a sibling. There is also the fact that I know deep down my husband doesn’t want one and however much he might say in the future that he is happy to have one I know he would be just doing it for me which is not what I want. I want it to be something we both want. It is something I think about every day and really have no idea what to do. Any advice on pros and cons of one child families would be greatly appreciate

Pros:

• more money
• more time (for you, for your DH, for your son)
• because of above two points, your DS is likely to be able to pursue additional hobbies if you & DH are happy for him to do do, which you might not be able to afford if you had to share the money in the pot with siblings
• no sibling rivalry
• no feeling jealous towards a sibling or competing for attention
• no squabbling between siblings
• more luxury holidays..or whatever else you choose to spend money on.

In short - it's time & money & being less frazzled, I think.

I am an only dc. Hated it as a dc and hate it as an adult.
I have multiple dc who say they are glad I had so many.
Obviously we don't have as much cash to flash but have camping holidays /cottage breaks and a lovely family life together!!