One more Facebook pregnancy announcement

[Proudtrout]

and I'll go stark raving bonkers!!

I'm a single parent with one child. Realistically a bit too long in the tooth for another but gutted about it. Not financially stable enough to adopt/foster/buy jizz off the interweb so just slowly trying to accept my lot.

I obviously hope I'll meet someone in the next 5 minutes who'll change all of that but I'm trying to make my life rich without waiting to be rescued.

But seriously, one more pregnancy announcement on faceache from people with children my sons age with a younger sibling or one on the way will just dissolve my heart.

They say that comparison is the thief of all happiness. They don't give much advice on what to do if your life is so alien to what you expected it to be that you've stopped comparing because it's impossible to believe that this is actually my life.

I know I sound ungrateful- my boy is my life and soul. It just breaks my heart that i can't give him more

That sounds sad op but honestly your son will be fine being an only child! He will have all of your attention all the time and that's all that matters.

Ahhh OP your post made me laugh and sad at the same time. I know just how you feel. I have a chromosome abnormality which means I've always had an extremely high risk of miscarriage along with anxiety so I didn't dare become pregnant with a second child for fear of getting depressed when I miscarried.

Like you I'm long in the tooth and have resigned myself to the fact I won't have another baby and I would be ok with that aside from people constantly boasting on Facebook and annoying family members hiding pregnancies from me because they assume I will be in their words "jealous". Not to mention wanting to tell people to fuck off when they used to ask when id be having number two.

I clearly remember one twat of a mum at my daughter's primary saying "an only child is a lonely child", as she stood there smugly pregnant with her third child. Turned out years later she found out her husband was cheating on her and now she moans endlessly about how hard it is to have three children.

It really pisses me off that society seems to think you shouldn't be happy if you don't have 2.4 kids and a husband. One thing I will say is I don't think how you're feeling will last forever. I think there's actually loads of positives about having an only child and we all get conditioned into thinking we must have this picture perfect life.

I bet you're a brilliant mum to your son and he's super lucky to have you all to himself.

Keep your chin up (and utilise the unfollow function on Facebook )

Cheers, yes I completely appreciate that my son will be happy if it's just us- I've been really enjoying our time together at the moment and reminding myself that people with younger babies are missing out in a different way. We get lots of leisurely (using that word loosely with a 2 year old in the mix!) play time, bed times and days out that wouldn't exist if I were caring for a newborn.

All the logic says hang in there, focus on the positive and I'll come through it.
The hormones say jump on any bloke that makes eye contact and my body is screaming make babies make babies!!!!!. Sure it'll pass but I've always been one to chase my dreams and make them happen and it's not a comfortable feeling having to accept a reality that I don't want. Still, life is like a box of chocolates ay.

Ps just unfollowed every woman of childbearing age on Facebook 😂

yes I totally get it. I feel liked I am stabbed in the heart every time someone I know announces their pregnancy. My 8 year old is growing up far to quickly and I do try to make the most of him but I would dearly have loved another and feel like I grieve for the other child I didn't have.

But I also remind myself of the things I can give my ds and do with him which might have been more more difficult with two.