Husband says No to know more kids, how do I cope with this decision?

[Pennyfitzgerald91]

Hello,

My husband and I have one 20month old son. I am feeling very broody at times but my husband doesn't want anymore kids. I can't accept this decision and don't know how to cope it. I can't get it off my mind. He is pretty adamant that he doesn't want anymore even when our son is older. But tje thought of this breaks my heart. Can anyone help or give any advice? Would really appreciate it. Thanks

Some men are unprepared for quite how full-on a baby can be. It hits your social life, your finances, the amount of your attention he gets. Plus loss of your income.
Maybe he's still getting over that shock. Does he spend much time with his son?

Have you asked him why? your dc is less than 2 so still quite soon. You don't say how old you both are but I assume no rush.

I'd focus on making a happy unit of 3 for the moment and think again in a year. He may well change his mind as he gets more involved. Good luck

What are his reasons?

He's only 20 months old, there's still plenty of time to have more children in the future if your DH decides he's ready for more.

You can't force him to want more, but giving him time might help. He might change his mind.
There is no rush, enjoy your family.

I was in that position a few months ago. I'm an only and always wanted two DC. DH is not keen for more as he worries about money and stress levels. DS is two now and we're really gelling as a family. I think I am more nostalgic for DS's baby phase and how quickly it all goes than broody. I also felt guilty as I always wanted a sibling.
But then I started thinking about how great my childhood was. I was lonely at times but so was DH who had an elder brother. I still am incredibly close to my parents. I always had what I wanted, my parents always took me on trips specifically focused on my interests, I was able to learn ballet and the piano, go horse riding. Maybe I was a bit spoilt but leaving home sorted me out and I'm not now. More and more families are opting to have only one child. In some ways it's ethically responsible re the overpopulation of the planet! I still wonder if we're doing the right thing but I don't want to give DH a breakdown or lose my marriage over it!!
In a compromise, we're hoping to send DS to a lovely independent school, which we couldn't do with two (well, it'd be tough!)