When only child refuses hotel kids club?

[phoenix1973]

We have an only child who is 9.
I'm knackered after our 2 week "break" to turkey.
She won't go yo kids club.
I envied the parents with a tribe of kids, who just lounged whilst their kids entertained themselves all day.
How do you get them to use kids club?

Honestly? If it's important to you that she goes, I'd just tell her she was going.

Not all the time, that would be mean but enough to give you the odd morning off if that's what you need. How, i also don't understand why she needs entertaining all the time. Can't she read (or draw or use a device) on the sun bed next to you for a while?

My dc get a lot of their own way on holiday but they also understand it's our holiday too.

May be work on increasing her independence and confidence between now and the next holiday. I have an only 4 year old who is luckily happy to entertain himself and with a bit of encouragement make friends himself (although this has a downside of then being dragged round the night time entertainment to see his new mates and parents). But I appreciate this is very much down to his personality. If your Dd is not so into socialising with new people, try and help her learn to entertain herself. Is she into reading, crafts, computer games etc? Or maybe look at holidaying with friends with children.

My children are teenagers now, but we have never put them in holiday clubs whilst away. Why would you? A holiday is time spent together as a family, not shoving them in a club they don't want to be in.

As a single parent of an only girl (12) I have realised that beach holidays are hell if she does not make a friend. So I stopped doing them.
Family friendly festivals and theme parks have become my holidays and they are actually more relaxing as there is less pressure on me to entertain her.

I'm an only child and I would have felt like I was missing the holiday if my parents put me in a kids club. We mainly did resort holidays by the beach and stayed on beach or round the pool. I think my mum probably would have liked me to make kid friends on holidays now that I look back as I remember her pointing out other children around the pool and beach very frequently and suggesting that I join in with them etc but I wasn't interested. I was happy to entertain myself and preferred reading books/swimming by myself.

Take a friend. my dd (an only until 8 months ago!) is a sulky bored nightmare without one!

She's 9 by the way. When she was much younger she was happier with our company. Mind you she has never been one for the kids club!

My DS is 9 not keen on the actual holiday club...However he gets attached to the entertainers and follows them around whatever activities they are doing...

He is also very good at making friends..So I would spend some time in the pool with him when friends weren't around... However when his friends were I let him get on with it.

How good is her swimming.. My DS has completed all levels of swimming so means he does have the independence to go swimming.

I also say buy a big inflatable. the in toy that the kids are playing with ..It is easier to join in then.