Changing mind

[blondiewoowoo1]

Hi all
I have a DS who is 3.5yrs old. I adore him, to me being a Mummy is the best thing in the world and sometimes I think I may burst with the love I have for him, however I never wanted another child after having DS but in the last 8 months myself and DH have decided we would like another child. We started trying but after only 1 month was told by the Dr's not to ttc until after a few gynae problems are sorted.
Now, I'm in two minds about having another one at all!
Does my uncertainty mean I shouldn't have another child?
I really wanted DS to have a sibling but now it's just so easy with one and we love our life with him that I'm not 100% sure what to do!
Has anyone else changed their minds several times and regretted their choice either way?

Psst! I don't think anyone is gonna say they regret having a 2nd, or 1st, or whatever number baby because they're "not allowed" to admit it. I think it's sad really, they might be suffering in silence, miserable and struggling. But they can't do anything about it because they have to deal with it.

I would say if you have doubts, don't do it.
I have one child and I'm content on keeping it that way! Proper dead set on it. I don't regret my son, but I do think if I had another I would regret it, yes. I knew I would have atleast one child, but after having my son I decided not to have anymore. My pregnancy was crap, my birth was crap, and my hospital stay was absolutely crap (as well as other people's on my ward) I had to make complaints- why would I do it again?! I'm just gonna say that I don't know why people do it a second time.

If you are happy with the way things are at the moment, why change it? If you have people slightly pressuring you to have another, don't let them persuade you. It's only your choice.

I agree with Lonz, most people won't say they regret a dc. I'm pregnant with dc2 but did think for a while dd might be an only.

I tried to think about my future family as l am always so tired now it would be easy to stay with one. If you see yourself with just your ds there's your answer

It is a hard decision and l know for certain there won't be a dc3 for us.

I posted on the parenting site when my DS was really little and I was struggling and some mums were really honest and said they did regret their second, they obviously said they loved them with all their heart but probably should have stuck with one. This helped me tremendously. I think you need to look at your life in 2/5/10 years. Do you see yourself with 2 children or with one, what makes you happy when you think of that? A family of three or a family of 4 (or 5 you could have twins)

I see myself as a lovely little family of three, peaceful, calm, and complete. What do you see?

I dont think you would ever regret it once you had the baby. Its the thought of another that puts people off but you would love and adore that baby just like your other child and you just get on with it!