My theory on one of the best things about having one

[HereComesYourMam]

You know how everyone always says things like "make the most of these early years - they'll fly by"? Lots of people have said that to me, and I've always secretly thought hm, the time isn't actually flying by for me, I'm OK with moving on to the next bit - is it bad that I'm not hankering after those baby/toddler/pre-school years?

Well my theory is that when you only have one child, because you can always give them your full attention, the time-flying-by thing isn't so relevant. It doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it properly - it means the opposite! I sort of feel so completely immersed in each stage, that I'm ready for the next one when it comes. Does that make sense?

I could agree with that. DS and I are currently sat in bed together on our iPads. We might not exactly be interacting but it's a nice companionable thing to do. There isn't room for another DC Good job DP didn't stay over last night

I completely agree, I love every stage but I am also hankering for the next one. Like when he will start to talk and be able to tell me what he wants as apposed to just making a screeching sound.

I love that there are 2 adults and one child so one of you can be playing and giving your LO your full attention the other can be having a lay in/having a cuppa/making the dinner. It's the adult time I don't like the idea of losing with two, when do you ever have time to keep your sanity? Well I wouldn't have any, I know 1 is enough for me.

May be, but if I'd only had DD1 I'd believe that all toddlers are unspeakably exhausting and have boxes and boxes of un used toys.

DD2 actually played with toys rather than climbing the bookcase, table, sofa back, out of the supermarket trolly or up ladder DH had left in the garden etc, etc?

DD2 held hands when you were out rather than vanishing in a puff of smoke.

Yes if you have only one you can savour every moment, if you have more than one there are moments when the other saves your sanity.

Because while DD2 was a much easier toddler, DD1 was a far calmer 6/7, 9/10 year old and her good humour was a godsend when DD2 was at her worse.

As teens, DD2 forces DD1 to be sociable and DD1 demonstrates it's possible not to get to 16 without being an annoying teen.

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